Wiki’s definition: “…seduction is a synonym for the act of charming someone — male or female — by an appeal to the senses, often with the goal of reducing unfounded fears and leading to their sexual emancipation”.
While not a bad definition, I’d rather offer a video clip featuring the character Jim Wheeler in Wild Orchid. In fact this article will break down some of the key elements of mature masculine and seductive man. As you can see Mickey is well dressed, gracious and charming yet not afraid to speak his truth, his every glance, word and gesture is masculine and seductive. In fact much of this movie is about the complete and total seduction of a woman.
Pay close attention to his body language, voice tone, gestures and his attitude. Enticing, seductive, filled with sexual tension, it lays out what the ideal dinner date looks like. And yes in spite of what you may some say, a truly masculine seducer will take a woman out to dinner on a first date and have her hanging on his every word. So now let’s break down and really focus on some of the nuances of this scene:
APPROACH FROM AN ANGLE SMOOTHLY AND CONFIDENTLY:
Watch how he approaches her from an angle and starts speaking over her shoulder. Next he starts talking to her as if they were old friends. One tactic any seducer uses is to assume familiarity with the woman. He is very playful right away, making the comment about his first name and sort of teasing her after she introduces herself: (“…well I certainly hope so, I’d feel like a fool if you weren’t”).
You may notice how when she stops to talk to the woman with the parrot, he continues ahead rather than waiting around. Now of course being cordial is extremely important yet you do not need to hang at her side every moment like a child clinging to her Mother.
BODY LANGUAGE, VOICE TONALITY AND PACING
Notice how he talks, slowly and seductively. He does not need to rush because he assumes any woman in his presence will want to hear what he has to say. Having this “I am a man of high status” attitude is another critical element to being a very confident and seductive man
CREATING A FUN & SEDUCTIVE ROLE PLAY
He then creates a fantasy role play using the dreary couple in white while cleverly inserting the two of them into the story, initially she plays along. But then when she subtly tries to change the subject, he does not let her get away with it. In doing so he establishes that he is completely detached from her reaction. When a woman knows you would rather lose her than hold your truth back, it creates an almost hypnotic seductive effect on her.
ALWAYS LEAD THE INTERACTION
When she does insist he stop he quickly assumes control again of the interaction by telling her “Come with me, there’s something I want to show you”. By doing this he establishes he is the one in charge and while he enjoys her company, she is still a guest in his world. Having that frame of mind at all times will inevitably lead to meeting and dating more attractive, interesting and balanced women in your life.
We hope that assists you in seeing this classic scene that exhibits the qualities of a modern seductive man in a new way and may serve as a guide in your seduction efforts. As always, feel free to leave your comments and happy seducing.